There are times in my life where questions start flowing on how I got to where I am in my life. Then I start criticizing myself about where I went wrong and pin point one moment that could have changed my next decision and point being, ect. I guess that means I am human? But all the minutes, seconds, hours I give to what I could have changed and how it could have been better, is a negative point to me and wasted time on moving forward. This is one of my biggest challenges I have with myself, just letting go. Of big things and small things too!
My Mother tells me, “The more you dwell on things the more wasted space you have in your brain”. I can move on from things but it’s not easy for me to forget things.
My family has been through a serious of events, but has been able to piece things back together like a jigsaw puzzle I didn’t even want to attempt. I truly believe my faith in God, all of us pushing our selves just a tiny bit and chancing doors of opportunity that opened, made our family come back to peace and piece with wisdom and knowledge of the past.
So with that said, I am choosing to take this time to describe my lessons learned.
I have learned how to use the phrase and use the technique of putting myself in “bird’s-eye” perspective. It takes a few deep breaths and concentration to remove yourself from your personal situation and look down on as if you were asked for advise. It is very difficult to do this in the heat of the moment but the more you practice the easier it becomes.
I have learned, people don’t always know what to say in situations so just believe it will all make sense eventually.
I have learned if you are curious and doubting something and it’s bothering you, ask what’s up. It only makes you feel stronger.
I have learned you have that one go-to person that you should always go-to. You will never find another one like them.
I have learned you can’t hide or pretend bad things are not there, but if you share your thoughts…your closest friends and family have been dying to help.
I have learned life does not have to be so hard. The world spins for a reason…It makes you dizzy and unstable but you MUST remain grounded.
I have learned you can take personal notes on people you admire and apply that to you.
I have learned to forgive because you are only one side of the story.
I have learned there are more people who love you then you could dream of.
I have learned things are not always as bad as they seem, someone else always has it worse.
I have learned to count your blessings and be very grateful for everything you do have.
I have learned that this song is the perfect song to end my post with, but you have to watch the video as well. 😉